Lovelife is my Brand and my Mission

Sex & Relationship Therapist & Coach, Educator, Speaker, Author, Blogger

We spend a few years on this beautiful planet and I believe that if we learn to embrace love in all of its beauty, intimacy, sensuality and excitement we can really, truly love life.

It's our relationships that are key to who we are and our happiness. Without sounding like I've found the key to a happy life, I think we'd all agree that if we're happy in our relationships, we have great sex lives and we're connecting on deeper levels with those we love, then life is pretty damn good! Imagine if everyone in the world was in love and having great sex - what a happier and saner place it would be!

That's why I’ve dedicated my life to discovering what really makes relationships work both in and out of the bedroom.

I am a Sex & Relationship Geek - completely and unabashedly fascinated by sex, love and intimacy in all its aspects from the biological to the psychological to the spiritual. As well as an enormous amount of formal study, I’ve done masses of personal research, and most importantly I’ve spent more than tenthousands of hours over nearly twenty years talking with people about sex and relationships - my private clients, participants in my workshops and retreats, mingling with people after giving presentations and media appearances and in the wider world.

There really aren't too many people in the world with this level of insight into what’s going on in people’s minds and bedrooms... I know what really does work and what doesn’t.

We live in a society that’s pretty screwed up sexually, so many people are confused, misinformed and struggling with their sexuality. Which is such a shame because sex is a celebration of life and our sexual energy is our life energy. SoI’m here to be a ‘light in the darkness’to help guide people to fulfill their sexual potential and experience all the love, connection and freedom that comes with a whole, healthy sexuality.

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newcastle herald
womens health magazine
news com
the age
the canberra times
nature and health
wellbeing magazine
cleo australia
the daily telegraph
cosmopolitan magazine
girlfriend magazine
marie claire
rn abc
mix 106.5
penthouse magazine
thats life magazine
ninemsn
today show
sunrise show
60 minutes
abc
mindfood
sydney morning herald

Professional Biography

One of the leading voices in what she calls the ‘third wave’ of sexuality - beyond shame, beyond sleaze, towards meaningful sex - Jacqueline Hellyer is a sex and relationship guru who is influencing minds and bedrooms across the globe.

In a world where fake sex sells anything but real sex is hard to know, Jacqueline brings her depth of knowledge, wisdom and genuine love to help people access their real, positive, life-enhancing sexuality, for greater well-being, closer relationships and happier lives.

Jacqueline is an accredited Psychosexual Therapist with the Society of Australian Sexologists (SAS) - one of only a handful of practitioners in Australia with this level of certification; and is a Professional Certified Coach, with the International Coach Federation (ICF).

Her academic qualifications include a Bachelor of Science in biochemistry and human sciences, a Graduate Diploma in Applied Science, a Bachelor of Arts in languages and literature, and a Masters of Science in Sexual Health, a Masters in Consciousness, Spirituality & Transpersonal Psychology, plus countless professional shorter courses, including being qualified in the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT). She is also highly knowledgeable and experienced in Tantra, Taoism and alternative sexual practices.

During the week she runs a thriving private practice as a Psychosexual Therapist and Coach helping individuals and couples through sex therapy and relationship coaching, with thousands of hours of client contact. On weekends she frequently runs her highly acclaimed retreats for women and couples in the Blue Mountains near Sydney and in Bali, having run well over 100 workshops and retreats in all. Jacqueline is frequently in the media, particularly ABC Radio's JJJ and Nightlife programs; she writes a column for News Ltd's Body+Soul; and has her own Love Shack segment on Channel 7's The Morning Show.

She has written three books: Great Sex After Kids - survival guide, Sex Secrets for Busy People and Seven Sex Goddesses - sexual re-awakening for today’s woman.Her LoveLife Blog contains over 300 articles, all of which are available as podcasts on iTunes. Also available as a podcast are the 38 hours of the weekly radio show she used to run, The Tantric Lounge- science, spirituality & sexuality. Jacqueline is a gifted presenter, running private workshops and speaking to organisations and groups around the world. She also frequently provides sex and relationship expertise in the media.

Currently she is turning this wealth of knowledge into digital online products and courses for individuals and couples. When not busy savings love lives, Jacqueline lives with her family in Sydney, and enjoys yoga, meditation, tango, gardening, cryptic crosswords, and of course, sex.

And a More Personal Biography...

I came out of the womb questioning. Apparently I was a ‘strange child’ who asked ‘strange questions’ and read ‘strange books’. From my earliest age I felt like I was the child pointing out that the emperor was wearing no clothes and was always puzzled and fascinated by people and their lack of awareness. As a child I knew that when I grew up I wanted to be a warrior, a scientist and a priest. I have, essentially, become all three:

The Warrior
I studied the martial arts extensively from my mid-teens through to my early 30s, becoming particularly adept at Aikido, the Art of Harmony. But even as a child I’d set myself tasks to build my will-power, and I’ve never been one to back down when I thought there was injustice or narrow-mindedness. To do my work in the field of sex and intimacy has definitely required a warrior spirit - it’s not easy to face so much opposition and ignorance and still keep going.

The Scientist
I feel existence is a miracle and I am endlessly fascinated by it. Over the years I have done three academic science degrees, and believe strongly in the scientific method. I also believe there is a lot that science is yet to discover. I see no discrepancy between spirituality and science, and love that modern science is reinforcing ancient spiritual wisdom. I consider myself a ‘Scientific Mystic’.

The Priest
I had a calling to be a priest, and was shocked as a young child to discover I couldn’t be one because I was a girl. That made no sense to me at all. So I quickly lost interest in religion and continued to explore and study spiritual, metaphysical and philosophical understandings, and continue to do so - it’s a life-long work (probably many lifetime’s work). As a therapist and educator, I feel that my work is a calling, and that calling is to help people become more whole and be their beautiful authentic selves. which is essentially the work of a true priest.

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After school I studied biochemistry and human sciences at university. The former was a traditional ‘hard’ science subject and the latter a multidisciplinary science course. At that stage I had intended doing research into human potential but the professors felt my views were too outlandish - I thought that the brain could change and that food affected our health - both topics that are considered valid now but back in the 80s had me labelled a hippy herbal fruitcake who’d probably been smoking too much weed…

So I changed track and did graduate studies in environmental science because as a new field it was looking for open-minded creative thinkers. So I worked in that field for many years. But, as much as I care for the environment and have strong ecological sensibilities, it was never my passion. So, three children and another degree or two later I decided to change.

Everyone thought I was mad to leave a very successful career and move into the then quite unknown field of Life Coaching. A few years later I wrote my first book ‘Great Sex After Kids’, did a Masters in Sexual Health to qualify as a Psychosexual Therapist…and I haven’t looked back!

It was almost as though I was ‘guided’ into specialising in sexuality, the universe seemed to want me to head in this direction, and after my initial surprise I was quite happy to go there as sexuality has always been a topic of interest for me at so many levels - the physical, historical, anthropological, philosophical, social, relational, and spiritual.

I feel the spiritual in particular is of interest, and a necessity in our current stage of development as a culture and even globally as a species. After such a long period of suppression, we are only just now starting to see sexuality as a fundamental part of ourselves as integrated, holistic, transpersonal beings. I have always had an intrinsic understanding of this concept, and have been drawn to studying spiritual traditions that incorporate sexuality, including, but not limited to, Taoism and Tantra.

Even though I have so many academic qualifications and I value the analytical and empirical, I get really geeky when I see how modern science is reinforcing these ancient wisdoms. This is why I did more graduate study and research, completing a second Masters degree, this time in Consciousness, Spirituality and Transpersonal Psychology, to really integrate these approaches. I call my approach Transpersonal Sexology.

Now, after so many years in the field and having spent thousands of hours working with thousands of people, I have embraced my calling fully and I have an exceptional life working with couples and individuals clinically and in workshops and retreats, as well as through my online courses, writings and media appearances, to help modern people understand the importance of an integrated and healthy sexuality for fulfilment and meaning in life.

TESTIMONIALS

Sometimes the love comes back as praise... Here I humbly present some of what people have said about me.

Note: Given the nature of my work and to protect people’s privacy, I’m not giving names - please trust me that these are all authentic!

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