LoveLife is my Brand and my Mission
Sex & Relationship Therapist & Coach, Educator, Speaker, Author, Blogger
We spend a few years on this beautiful planet and I believe that if we learn to embrace love and sexuality in all of its beauty, intimacy, sensuality and playfulness we can really, truly love life.
It's our relationships that are key to who we are and our happiness. Without sounding like I've found the key to a happy life, I think we'd all agree that if we're happy in our relationships, we have great sex lives and we're connecting on deeper levels with those we love, then life is pretty damn good! Imagine if everyone in the world was in love and having great sex - what a happier and saner place it would be!
That's why I’ve dedicated my life to discovering what really makes relationships work both in and out of the bedroom.
I am a Sex & Relationship Geek - completely and unabashedly fascinated by sex, love and intimacy in all its aspects from the biological to the psychological to the spiritual. As well as an enormous amount of formal study, I’ve done masses of personal research, and most importantly I’ve spent more than ten thousands hours over nearly twenty years talking with people about sex and relationships - my private clients, participants in my workshops and retreats, mingling with people after giving presentations and media appearances and in the wider world.
There really aren't too many people in the world with this level of insight into what’s going on in people’s minds and bedrooms... I know what really does work and what doesn’t.
We live in a society that’s pretty screwed up sexually, so many people are confused, misinformed and struggling with their sexuality. Which is such a shame because sex is a celebration of life and our sexual energy is our life energy. So I’m here to be a ‘light in the darkness’to help guide people to fulfill their sexual potential and experience all the love, connection and freedom that comes with a whole, healthy sexuality.
One of the leading voices in what she calls the ‘third wave’ of sexuality - beyond shame, beyond sleaze, towards meaningful sex - Jacqueline Hellyer is a sex and relationship guru who is influencing minds and bedrooms across the globe.
In a world where fake sex sells anything but real sex is hard to know, Jacqueline brings her depth of knowledge, wisdom and genuine love to help people access their real, positive, life-enhancing sexuality, for greater well-being, closer relationships and happier lives.
Jacqueline is an accredited Psychosexual Therapist with the Society of Australian Sexologists (SAS) - one of only a handful of practitioners in Australia with this level of certification; and is a Professional Certified Coach, with the International Coach Federation (ICF).
Her academic qualifications include a Bachelor of Science in biochemistry and human sciences, a Graduate Diploma in Applied Science, a Bachelor of Arts in languages and literature, and a Masters of Science in Sexual Health, a Masters in Consciousness, Spirituality & Transpersonal Psychology, plus countless professional shorter courses, including being qualified in the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy (PACT). She is also highly knowledgeable and experienced in Tantra, Taoism and alternative sexual practices.
During the week she runs a thriving private practice as a Psychosexual Therapist and Coach helping individuals and couples through sex therapy and relationship coaching, with thousands of hours of client contact. On weekends she frequently runs her highly acclaimed retreats for women and couples in the Blue Mountains near Sydney and in Bali, having run well over 100 workshops and retreats in all. Jacqueline is frequently in the media, particularly ABC Radio's JJJ and Nightlife programs; she writes a column for News Ltd's Body+Soul; and has her own Love Shack segment on Channel 7's The Morning Show.
She has written three books: Great Sex After Kids - survival guide, Sex Secrets for Busy People and Seven Sex Goddesses - sexual re-awakening for today’s woman.Her LoveLife Blog contains over 300 articles, all of which are available as podcasts on iTunes. Also available as a podcast are the 38 hours of the weekly radio show she used to run, The Tantric Lounge- science, spirituality & sexuality. Jacqueline is a gifted presenter, running private workshops and speaking to organisations and groups around the world. She also frequently provides sex and relationship expertise in the media.
Currently she is turning this wealth of knowledge into digital online products and courses for individuals and couples. When not busy savings love lives, Jacqueline lives with her family in Sydney, and enjoys yoga, meditation, tango, gardening, cryptic crosswords, and of course, sex.
After school I studied biochemistry and human sciences at university. The former was a traditional ‘hard’ science subject and the latter a multidisciplinary science course. At that stage I had intended doing research into human potential but the professors felt my views were too outlandish - I thought that the brain could change and that food affected our health - both topics that are considered valid now but back in the 80s had me labelled a hippy herbal fruitcake who’d probably been smoking too much weed…
So I changed track and did graduate studies in environmental science because as a new field it was looking for open-minded creative thinkers. So I worked in that field for many years. But, as much as I care for the environment and have strong ecological sensibilities, it was never my passion. So, three children and another degree or two later I decided to change.
Everyone thought I was mad to leave a very successful career and move into the then quite unknown field of Life Coaching. A few years later I wrote my first book ‘Great Sex After Kids’, did a Masters in Sexual Health to qualify as a Psychosexual Therapist…and I haven’t looked back!
It was almost as though I was ‘guided’ into specialising in sexuality, the universe seemed to want me to head in this direction, and after my initial surprise I was quite happy to go there as sexuality has always been a topic of interest for me at so many levels - the physical, historical, anthropological, philosophical, social, relational, and spiritual.
I feel the spiritual in particular is of interest, and a necessity in our current stage of development as a culture and even globally as a species. After such a long period of suppression, we are only just now starting to see sexuality as a fundamental part of ourselves as integrated, holistic, transpersonal beings. I have always had an intrinsic understanding of this concept, and have been drawn to studying spiritual traditions that incorporate sexuality, including, but not limited to, Taoism and Tantra.
Even though I have so many academic qualifications and I value the analytical and empirical, I get really geeky when I see how modern science is reinforcing these ancient wisdoms. This is why I did more graduate study and research, completing a second Masters degree, this time in Consciousness, Spirituality and Transpersonal Psychology, to really integrate these approaches. I call my approach Transpersonal Sexology.
Now, after so many years in the field and having spent thousands of hours working with thousands of people, I have embraced my calling fully and I have an exceptional life working with couples and individuals clinically and in workshops and retreats, as well as through my online courses, writings and media appearances, to help modern people understand the importance of an integrated and healthy sexuality for fulfilment and meaning in life.
Sometimes the love comes back as praise... Here I humbly present some of what people have said about me.Note: Given the nature of my work and to protect people’s privacy, I’m not giving names - please trust me that these are all authentic!
It’s been so good to find a book that tells us how to look after ourselves - not only how to look after the baby.
‘The couples retreat is something every couple should do if they can. The course is refreshing, inspiring and gave our relationship a fun tool set to set us up for a joyful life together. It’s not just about sex (though that stuff was great), it debunks myths and starts a conversation that changed our relationship - definitely for the better. Jacqueline has a gift to make everyone feel comfortable. Don’t wait until there is a ‘problem’ - all relationships can be improved. Would recommend to all couples!’
The Tantric Lounge has surpassed any expectations I had of attending such an event and I find myself feeling exhilarated from the experience to a whole new degree after each session.
"Thank-you for creating a safe space for us all to learn, grow and share. Absolutely essential for all women who want to thrive, not just survive.”
Thank you for teaching me how to treat my wife (with numerous chronic illnesses) in a spirit of compassion while opening up a multitude of possibilities for both of us to experience giving and receiving.
Luscious Woman has truly shifted my thinking, my life and me, in a wonderful direction. Thank you so much Jacqueline.
Love your work. You’re speaking the language and have a super in-depth understanding which I respect!
“Sex was just off the agenda and we’d lost connection. We couldn’t recommend this book more. It really will help”
Before meeting Jacqueline we were “fumbling around in the dark”, I couldn’t go the distance and this left my beloved underwhelmed. We were caught in the daily grind, were sexually frustrated and wanting a more satisfying experience. Since Jacqueline’s sex coaching our lovemaking has become light-hearted, our lives filled with romance, dating, petting, smooches. When we make love the time is intimate, fun, erotic, orgasmic and/or all of the above. We’ve never been happier, whole or as complete – and can’t thank you enough.
Thank you for a wonderful retreat. All the things we were worried about turned out to be no concern at all and all the things we were looking forward to turned out to be much better than we dreamed! We are still buzzing from the experience.
"It was a really powerful, transformative experience. I feel I have reclaimed something precious and essential with the help of a group of loving, supportive women. It made me appreciate how much healing we can do as women when we come together and share our experiences."
I really got what it means to come into my masculine sexual energy, with strength and confidence and no macho or aggression. Feels great! (And my wife is beaming!)
“It is beautiful how each activity builds on the previous one like blocks, so that by the end of the evening we are engaging in the most divine magical experiences that we could never have got to otherwise!”
Luscious Woman was so useful and very much applies to the modern lush woman who wants to feel and be even more empowered!
You have such a fabulous gift for taking all the awkwardness out of sexuality and turning it into such a lovely and beautiful thing to embrace.
“It's been a deep, profound and subtle spiritual liberation. It's given me the freedom and empowerment to open up and allow myself to feel and to express how I feel, in every way. This feeling of liberation and love and power and openness pervades my whole life and how I live now, and I can see the effect it has on others too and how they respond to me. It's very subtle, but soooo powerful and wonderful. It feels like it is radiating out from the very core of my being and is an all encompassing love, so, very much including, but not just about, my sexual being."
The videos were beautifully engaging. You've condensed the essence of being a lover from the male perspective into an easy to follow course and I can only wish I had discovered this course ages ago and saved myself 15 years of trial & error with my wife!
We LOVED the retreat. You created a safe, adult, sexy space where we could be honest and open, exploring ourselves and the connection that exists in really different ways than we've ever been able to in the past. Your rich and sensitive holding of the spiritual side, and ease of its emergence as sexual energy - an energy to draw the other in and connect with - was really a gift and a beautiful model to offer.
You’re the first of many counsellors who really feels comfortable and is coming from a practical, understandable place. You've helped us find the key and it's really quite simple.
We have noticed a real shift in our energies towards each other since seeing you, almost like switching from AM to FM radio, the difference is that noticeable.
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What our clients are saying
"Thank-you for so deliciously weaving my sexually and spiritually together again, I now feel the way I’ve always wanted and known I could feel."
"It’s been so good to find a book that tells us how to look after ourselves - not only how to look after the baby."
"I feel an enormous sense of relief that we have a platform to communicate about intimacy and sex in an open respectful and adult way."
"I felt so useless and alone after I had my baby, and forcing myself to have sex with my husband made it worse. This book has helped me see in little ways how I can enjoy being a mother and a wife - which means I can enjoy being me! Thank-you."
"Sex was just off the agenda and we’d lost connection. We couldn’t recommend this book more. It really will help"
"Seeing Jacqueline has been by far one of the best decisions we have made. Before seeking her help I was very sad about our situation. I am so happy to say that as a direct result of her thoughtful guidance we are in such a different and better place in our sex life."
"I'm so happy with ME, where I am and where we are as a couple. This is where I've been trying to get for so long and now I'm here! Thanks - you're the best!"
"You’re the first of many counsellors who really feels comfortable and is coming from a practical, understandable place. You've helped us find the key and it's really quite simple."
"We used to fight constantly about sex, I never thought we'd find a way out. Then we found you and that's all changed. You're awesome!"
"We have noticed a real shift in our energies towards each other since seeing you, almost like switching from AM to FM radio, the difference is that noticeable."
"We really love coming to see you, as you offer us such support and have made a huge difference to our lives."
"I never thought I’d lose my libido - but I did! Who’d have thought one little baby could be so exhausting! Your book made so much sense - it explained why I was feeling this way, why my partner was feeling this way, and what we could do about it."
"You've changed the whole way I look at sex, now I feel so much more positive and free and empowered!"
"I've seen so many therapists but you're amazing! I come out of each session so much more self-aware and enlightened."
"I wish we’d had this book when our first bub was born. But better late than never, it’s been a great help second time around!"
"My sessions with Jacqueline were like a great conversation with a very wise sister/friend. She helped me through the end of my 25 year marriage with compassion and insight, giving me perspective, coping skills and a gentle push where required. I’m so grateful to have had her wise counsel."
"A massive thank you for all your guidance and wisdom. Your sex therapy played a very significant role in changing our lives forever."
"It’s made us realise how important it is to always be there for each other, to prioritise us, even though it’s so easy to be distracted."
"Thanks again for your brilliant life-changing support. "
"We weren’t in a very good place. Reading Jacqueline’s book together made the world of difference and we’re stronger for it"
"Working on the solution instead of the problem has taken me further forward then anything else I have tried."
"You have such a fabulous gift for taking all the awkwardness out of sexuality and turning it into such a lovely and beautiful thing to embrace. "
"This book has changed our lives. It’s all good practical common-sense - and it works!"
"Before meeting Jacqueline we were fumbling around in the dark, I couldn’t go the distance and this left my beloved underwhelmed. We were caught in the daily grind, were sexually frustrated and wanting a more satisfying experience. Since Jacqueline’s sex coaching our lovemaking has become light-hearted, our lives filled with romance, dating, petting, smooches. When we make love the time is intimate, fun, erotic, orgasmic and/or all of the above. We’ve never been happier, whole or as complete – and can’t thank you enough."