Black Belt in the Bedroom - Online Sex Therapy Course for Men

Black Belt in the Bedroom is a guided pathway to sexual evolution - in the privacy of your own home!

  • Do you want to get better in bed?
  • Do you want to know how to last longer?
  • How to pleasure your partner to the heights of orgasmic bliss?
  • Do you want to have a deeper more meaningful relationship?
  • Do you want to reach your sexual potential?

Then read on, I will show you how.

You can become the best lover your partner has ever had...

Combining the best of Tantric and Taoist wisdom with modern scientific knowledge, Black Belt in the Bedroom is a unique online sex course for men that’s the result of my years of experience - Tantric, academic and therapeutic - working with countless men and their partners. Consider it a guided pathway to sexual evolution that takes you beyond the limited, immature concepts of what sex tends to be in our society.

You’re probably used to ‘white belt’ or at best ‘coloured belt’ sex. With this course you will enter into the Black Belt levels and develop real mastery.

Now in your own time, in the privacy of your own home, anywhere in the world, you can access exclusive information to help you become a great lover, the kind of man who brings out the best in a woman.

Start your evolution today! AUD $249 (approx $US165)

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Hi, I'm Jacqueline Hellyer,

Ok, calling this sex therapy course Black Belt in is a little tongue-in-cheek, but I've actually got a black belt in Aikido, so I like the analogy that being a great lover is like being a great martial artist, you have to work at it to hone your ability. And the martial arts are surprisingly like sex, in terms of feeling and flowing with the energy of your partner.

There are countless sex tips and tricks out there, if you want to settle for being a coloured belt, but they miss out on the essence of what it takes to be a Black Belt in the bedroom. There aren’t many people in the world with my breadth of knowledge and experience around sex, love and intimacy - from the scientific to the therapeutic to the spiritual, and fewer still who share it in such an open, accessible and inspiring way.

In this sex therapy course for men we'll be looking at sex from a scientific point of view as well as an spiritual point of view. I use Taoist and Tantric concepts that are applicable to sex in the modern world. We'll be looking at sex holistically and developmentally, so that you will grow as an individual, as a partner, and most definitely as a lover.

If you want to master anything, you have to work at it, you have to study and learn and practice - and I reckon sex would have to be one of the best things to study and practice! Do the women of the world a favour, do your partner a favour - become a great lover, a Black Belt in the Bedroom …

Why my Black Belt in the Bedroom Course Works

1. Developed by a REAL expert
You're not going to find many people on this planet with my level of knowledge and experience. As a Transpersonal Sexologist I've studied everything to do with sex, love and intimacy at the physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual levels, and with years of experience working with people over thousands and thousands of hours - I know what works. Don't be distracted by the 'selfie gurus' with their slick sexy photos, it's quality knowledge gained from rigorous experience that you want and that I can offer you.

2. Great Information
This is based on information that you actually need - even if you don't realise it yet. This isn't tips and tricks, that's what the 'coloured' belts think sex is - this is sexual mastery, from the inside out. Distilled from ancient Tantric and Taoist wisdom and modern scientific knowledge and therapeutic practice, combined with the experience of countless real people I've worked with, this is information that is real and effective.

3. Practical
This is real information for real men. I give you a lot of theoretical information, because knowledge is power; and I give you a lot of practical approaches and activities, so that you can really embody the information and make it part of your life.

4. Tested
I've been developing and testing this developmental, transpersonal approach to sex clinically for over ten years with thousands of clients and workshop and retreat participants - and that's not to mention all the thousands of years that led up to me compiling it in a way that works for the contemporary man!This works!

5. For All Men
This information applies to all men, whatever your age or stage of life.

This isn't 'tips and tricks', that's coloured-belt levels - this is Black Belt, what you really need to know to become a great lover.

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A Black Belt in the Bedroom is:

Level 1: Confident
Level 2: Connected
Level 3: Creative
Level 4: Compassionate
Level 5: Captivating
Level 6: In Control
Level 7: A Consumate Lover!

You can get there.

You can be the best lover your partner has ever had.

The Black Belt in the Bedroom test:

  1. Can you make love to the same partner a thousand times and find it ever more wonderful?
  2. Can you come if and when you decide to?
  3. Can you manage your desire and your arousal?
  4. Can you orgasm without ejaculation and be multi-orgasmic?
  5. Can you absorb the energy from a beautiful woman without feeling you want to have sex with her?
  6. Can you feel the sexual power of all women?
  7. Do you know that sex is about pleasure not orgasm?
  8. Do you realise that porn is what looks good not what feels good?
  9. Can you luxuriate in the valleys of sex as well as revel in the peaks?
  10. Can you be so present with your partner that you can bring her to a state of orgasm? Can you do this without genital stimulation? Can you do this without touching her?
  11. Do you know that foreplay never ends?
  12. Do you know that the true master of sex never stops learning?

The seven levels of sexual mastery

We’ve got a pretty immature attitude towards sex in our society, everyone’s focused on the hardness of the erection and size of orgasms. And while strong erections and big orgasms are great, they’re more the icing on the cake - and without the cake the icing itself isn’t very satisfying.

You’ll never grow to reach your sexual potential if that’s where your focus is.

Bring on the seven levels! So, rather than getting stuck down in those coloured-belt levels, trying to master the ‘tricks’ without having the underlying self-development, these seven levels of Black Belt give you a structured pathway to evolve as a lover, to develop the understanding, knowledge and awareness that you need to attain sexual mastery.

"Every man can become the ultimate lover - a Black Belt in the Bedroom!"

seven levels to sexual mastery

For each level of Sexual Mastery there are a series of videos and support material that provide:

1. A detailed description of each level of Sexual Mastery

2. A fictional story describing the female equivalent of each level

3. Videos on specific issues and practices relevant to each level

4. Homework activities

5. A challenge!

The Seven Levels of Black Belt

Watch me explain the levels of sexual mastery.

“The path to Mastery starts with mastery of self.”

It all starts with you - having a positive sense of self, centred, confident, balanced in your yin and yang elements. In this level we'll be looking at what it is to have mastery of self and how you get there:

  • you'll learn about mindfulness and presence so that you are really in your body right here, right now,
  • you'll learn how you can use your breath to keep you present and to moderate your state of being,
  • you'll learn how to really connect brain and penis so that you're working as a team,
  • you'll learn to 'solo cultivate', the art of mindful masturbation.

You'll develop the side of yourself that I call 'The Gentleman', a man who is confident, centred and self-aware.

“Unless a man meets his partner with equality, he cannot proceed further.”

Once you've got the hang of yourself, you need take that forward and 'meet' your partner - with equality, assessing for worthiness, co-creating safety so you can then explore with freedom. In this level we'll be looking at how the Master of the Encounter does this:

  • you'll learn what sex really is, what it really is all about,
  • you'll learn about consent and safety, why it's so important, and how to create it,
  • you'll learn about the gaze, a key part of the encounter.

You'll develop the side of yourself that I call 'The Warrior' a man who is respectful, discerning, relaxed yet alert.

“Confuscious say: Man with pole stuck up ass is dud fuck!”

Once you've got that connection it's time to play - and you're not going to be able to do that if you're too serious, too in your head, or too laden with negative emotions of shame or pressure! In this level we'll be looking at what you need to be free and creative:

  • you'll learn about how sex isn't a performance, you can't get it wrong!
  • you'll learn how to maintain a 'whatever' attitude and why that gives you freedom to explore,
  • you'll learn how to get rid of shame, so that you can be open and free,
  • you'll learn about fantasy, what it is and how to use it,
  • you'll learn about the good and bad of porn, and how to use it for good!

You'll develop the side of yourself that I call 'The Merrymaker', a man who is light, playful, shame-less and creative.

“The path to woman is through an open heart.”

This is where we really start to get to connection and where good sex takes off. In this level we'll be looking at how to become an expert on her, to really know her:

  • you'll learn about combining the sex and love energies to create a really potent energy,
  • you'll learn how to honour the feminine and understand female sexuality,
  • you'll learn about listening and how to really pay attention so that you become an expert on your partner,
  • you'll learn all about touch, a vital element of connection and female arousal.

You'll develop the side of yourself that I call 'The Lover', a man who is connected, compassionate, tender and attentive.

“The man who cultivates his garden will attract the birds and the bees.”

Once you know all about her, it's time to look at yourself, for the Art of Seduction is the art of getting someone to do what you want, for your mutual pleasure … In this level we'll be looking at the Art of Seduction, what it really means and how to do it well:

  • you'll learn about the difference between desire and arousal,
  • you'll learn how to contain and use your arousal,
  • you'll learn the importance of 'beforeplay', what happens way before you get to the bedroom,
  • you'll learn how to identify what it is you really want,
  • you'll learn how to ask for what you want,
  • you'll learn how to get what you want.

You'll develop the side of yourself that I call 'The Seducer', a man who is inviting, subtle, sensual, enticing.

“Play the instrument that is woman and be rewarded with the music of her pleasure.”

With all you've developed so far, now you can really master the Art of Sex, reveling in your skill at providing exquisite pleasure for your partner. In this level we'll be looking at the technical side of sex, and how, if you wish, you can explore some of the 'darker' sides of sexuality:

  • you'll learn about women's bodies and how they work, including her 'three sexual gates',
  • you'll learn to master her arousal and how to bring her to more than just 'orgasm' but to 'orgasmic states',
  • you'll learn about power exchange and 'wicked sex', how to do it responsibly and skillfully,
  • you'll learn to master intercourse, particularly the Art of the Thrust.

You'll develop the side of yourself that I call 'The Maestro', a man who is skillful, commanding, responsible and honourable.

“Only when he gives up attachment can a man be free.”

But wait - there's more! There is Beyond Mastery. There is Transcendence. In this level we'll be looking at the transcendent, mystical, spiritual possibilities of sex:

  • you'll learn about letting go of craving, attachment ideals, projections, traditional concepts of 'masculinity',
  • you'll learn about pleasure, potency, fluidity,
  • you'll take this forward to the endless spiral of evolution, growth and pleasure...

You'll develop the side of yourself that I call 'The Transcender', a man who is open, vulnerable, porous, rapturous.


See what Black Belt in the Bedroom Course Graduates Say

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"The videos were beautifully engaging. You've condensed the essence of being a lover from the male perspective into an easy to follow course and I can only wish I had discovered this course ages ago and saved myself 15 years of trial & error with my wife! "

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"I thought I'd learn all these new sex tricks, positions, etc that would blow my partner away and have her coming back and begging for more. Your program was SO much more than that, so refreshingly educational to me at 34 years of age. To say your course is worth every penny is truly an understatement"

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"I really got what it means to come into my masculine sexual energy, with strength and confidence and no macho or aggression. Feels great! (And my wife is beaming!)"

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"Taking Black Belt completely revolutionized my thinking about sex and has had a long lasting positive influence on my sex life."

Enrol now and become a true Master of Sex - a Black Belt in the Bedroom!

You pay just $A249 (about $US165) to learn the real secrets to sexual mastery and become the lover you and your partner want you to be!

The exclusive information I will be sharing with you will change your life forever. It will enable you to become calm, confident and creative in the bedroom, and in the whole of life.

If you’re ready to discover the sexual secrets that most men don't ever get to learn, then sign up to my course now.

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Here are two of the over fifty videos you'll have access to on this sexual evolution course for men!

Do you have a female partner?
Then go on your journey to great sex together!

Register her for the companion course for women: Luscious Woman and evolve to your sexual potential together. I recommend that you watch the videos for each level separately and then discuss and practice together. It's a great way to get to know yourself and each other and to develop the skills to co-create an ongoing awesome sex life.

Get a 25% discount for registering both of you together

That's just $A375 for both courses (about $US250)! It could be the best thing you ever do!

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Online Course FAQs

Yes, the course is completely private! You can do whenever, wherever you like, at whatever pace suits you.

No, you can do the course whether you are single or partnered. It's designed for all men.

When you register you'll be asked to pay with a credit card. Transactions are done securely through PayPal.

You can access the course at any time, for as long as you like!

There are around 50 videos in the course, ranging from two to twenty minutes. That's a lot of content for you!

You just need a screen and a wifi service! You can access it on a computer, laptop, tablet or phone.

Just contact me and I'll look into it for you!

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