Download Audio: Take the Pressure Off Your Penis!
There's so much pressure on penises! They're supposed to rise on command, stay hard for ages, ejaculate at just the right moment... No wonder so many of them have 'performance issues'. I'm so glad I don't have one - well, I do, but it belongs to my partner - but if I had one myself, I'm sure mine would collapse under the pressure too.
So, for a start, I want to stress that it’s totally fine for a penis to have a rest during proceedings. Everything does not have to come to a grinding halt just because the penis isn’t hard. There are plenty of other things you can do: use other parts of the body, focus on other parts of the body, gaze into each other’s eyes while gently running fingers along your beloved’s skin, have a chat…
Remember, when you move away from the linear model of sex with all its quantitative KPIs and pressure to perform to a non-linear model where the only KPIs are pleasure and connection, then all that matters is what’s happening in this moment and what you are co-creating in this moment. It is seriously so much less pressure. And with that less pressure, paradoxically, the penis is less likely to have a rest, or will rise again if it does.
So take the pressure off! Make sure you’re in a relaxed environment, you’re taking plenty of time to simply enjoy each other’s company, sinking into yourself to sync in together, breathing slowly and deeply, really paying attention to the connection between you. Allow the arousal to build, no rush, no pressure. Breathe the arousal all through your body. Really feel with your penis when it’s inside your beloved. Feel her holding you warm and snug. Let your love flow through your penis to her and draw the deliciousness of your connection back through it into your own body.
Not only will this approach mean your penis is more likely to stay hard longer, you are more likely to be able to choose if and when you ejaculate, and you’ll feel so much more pleasure during the proceedings that you really will feel that as pleasurable as an ejaculation is, it is just one delightful part of the extended pleasure of the entirety of lovemaking….
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